It takes strength to admit that you are abusing your partner. But if you really want to change, you can. Violence is learned behaviour. You can unlearn it – but you will only be successful if you can:
Perpetrator programmes exist to help men change their behaviour and increase the safety of women and children. Programmes normally consist of small groups of men from a range of backgrounds.
Group sessions look at the causes of violence and abuse, helping men understand why they are violent. Men are asked to take full responsibility for the abuse and recognise the impact of their violence on their partner and children.
Participants also learn different, non-abusive ways of behaving within a relationship.
Most programmes are in contact with the woman a perpetrator abused in order to ensure the ongoing safety of her and her children. Details of the Domestic Violence Intervention Programme.
Respect – the national association for domestic violence perpetrator programmes and associated support services – can help you find a programme. Visit the Respect website.