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Support for male victims

Most domestic abuse is directed at women but men are abused too, in both heterosexual and same sex relationships.

Seeking help as an abused man could be difficult. You may feel there's nowhere to turn or that no-one will take you seriously.

Perhaps you're ashamed about what is happening or feel like you have done something to deserve it.

You may be worried that people will think you are less of a man for 'allowing' yourself to be abused.

No-one deserves to be abused by the person they love. You have the right to be respected and live in safety.

Please remember:

  • You are not alone - many men experience abuse
  • The abuse isn't your fault
  • There are services that can help you
  • You can't change your partner's behaviour
  • Domestic abuse is against the law

Know your rights

  • You have the same rights as women 
  • The police will take you seriously and arrest your abuser if there is evidence of assault
  • He or she can be prosecuted
  • Statutory services must also provide support regardless of gender

Accepting that you are being abused is an important step.

The next step is to break your silence and feelings of being alone by contacting an appropriate organisation or speaking to someone you trust.

Find support

You are not alone.

NIDAS - Norfolk Integrated Domestic Abuse Services (opens new window) (medium and high risk support)

  • Telephone: 0300 561 0555 (9am and 6:30pm on weekdays, between 9am and 3pm on weekends)
  • Text: 07860 063 464
  • Out of hours: 0808 2000 247
  • Direct support for medium and high risk cases across Norfolk
  • Home safety support for high risk victims

Respect Men's Advice Line (opens new window)

  • Telephone: 0808 801 0327 (9am-8pm Monday and Wednesday, 9am-5pm Tuesday, Thursday and Friday)
  • Telephone and online chat advice and support for men experiencing domestic violence and abuse

Mankind Initiative (opens new window)

  • Telephone: 01823 334244 (10am-4pm Monday-Friday)
  • Information about reporting incidents, planning an escape and police procedures for male victims of domestic abuse